Iola's Idiocy

I've not really been able to avoid the recent "over 35s risks re babies" news - well cock on says I: never yet had the urge to have children, figure I'm reasonably safe from the biological urge, but guess I can't be sure till I'm 40. As a youth I figured if I hadn't wanted to breed by the time I was 35 I shouldn't - life is hard enough when you are fully enabled, and as the odds I know of were 1 in 30 of having a downs syndrome child I figured I didn't think that was good odds for my potential offspring. Now I am 35 I realise the odds aren't quite correct however I'm still of the "if you don't actively want kids it's probably not a good idea to have them" school of thought. What has facinated me recently is the fuss this all causes. The recent news articles side step the whole "when did you last meet a bloke under 30 who actively wanted kids?" - I only knew of 1 friend who knew he wanted kids under the age of 25, many were of the "no way" school of thought till 30+, though most who are dads at 35 do seem to change their minds around 28... Most of the women I know seem to be of the "oh I'm sure I'll have them someday" school of thought.

What really really shocks me though is the way people (OK so I've only had this conversation with male friends and 1 female colleague so perhaps it's just childless men and women in child centred organisations), seem determined to tell you that "it's ok ,you aren't too old yet, you wont be till well over 40" , even though this is clearly not what you want to hear! Why is this: is the idea of a female not having yet had the biological urge so worrying to them? Do they actually hate me and want to upset my carefully rationalised view point : is it like some dire warning: Look lady you think you can get away with it but no you have a duty to try to breed?